Posted by Blanquis in Why is it that when a woman doesn’t do what she is supposed to do by society’s standards, she is called out on it. “How could she do that?” and “What was she thinking?” comes out of everybody’s mouths.
When a man doesn’t do what he is suppose to do, everybody just assumes that he doesn’t know any better!
Not only is this frustrating, but totally wrong!
You would think that by now, there wouldn’t be such thoughts. You would think that by now men and women would be equals. Nope!
How many times have we heard women say “men!”
I personally know some men that every time they do something wrong say “Hey! I’m a man, why should I care about this or that?”
Not saying that all men are like this by any means, I have three handsome boys that I am personally influencing to become better men. For the most part, however, we are still living in a society that expects women to be more thoughtful than men.
If a man does something right, they usually want women to acknowledge the fact that they did something right and reward them. Hmmmmm…… THROW THE DOG A TREAT huh?
Men don’t get mad, quit barking and sit boy, sit!
Gosh this is so totally true. When a man does something right (like take out the garbage without you nagging at them) they want you to praise them for their accomplishment. Yet, we can cook, clean, and hold down a full time job, and they act like it’s expected. Thank goodness we also have the power to raise nice sons and teach them how to behave.
this is probably the most absurd blog about men i’ve heard in a long time!! for the most part, in this society, women and men are equal. not in all environments, but for the most part they are. even though we are equal, we are different. women are more thoughtful b/c they are wired that way. they have the chance to give birth and have a bond with their kids men could never have. (with the exception of that one guy that gave birth). Women generally think with their emotions. They “feel” while men look at things from a different perspective. neither way is the “right” way, its just how men are different from women. this is a generalization of course, and there are exceptions, but lets keep this discussion generalized and stereotypical. women have alot of hormones running around in their body, and when its their “time of month”, they get really pissy. what do men do during this time… we stay away and let it pass. we understand whats going on and know that this is not their real spouse or girlfriend. but when men have an extra boost of testosterone in them and act stupid (especially when alcohol or sports are involved), we are criticized. double standard?
my point is, stereotypically of course, men are meant to be the head of the household, the hunter, the person responsible for their family. The woman (or wife in this case) is supposed to help him and support him as a partnership. They are nurtureres. they are equal, but have different duties. when the roles get reversed or a role is not taken care of, things go wrong. look at adam and eve… God did not cast them out of eden when eve ate of the apple. he did it when adam did not take responsibility for both of them eating of the apple. that was his role, and he didn’t fulfill his responsibililty. i bet things would have been different if he said “it was my fault.” since then, men have been irresponsible, and women have desired the role of the man. its hardwired in us. thats why its so hard to take up those responsibilities, and so easy to do ignore them. so when a guy makes a comment “i’m a man, why should i care about that”, its b/c we do not think any other way. Men do not desire to see chick flicks b/c we are not turned on by emotion but by sight. thats why more men see “batman” and not “sisterhood of the traveling pants”. we are not hardwired that way. It does not feed our desire to be the provider, hunter, etc. oh, by the way…women!! u can never change a man! only God can do that, and He will only do that if the man is willing. i’m not making excuses for mens irresponsibilty, just explaining why we think the way we think. it goes back thousands of years, so no one should be surprised why men think the way they think and women act the way they act. as far as “throw a dog a treat ” comment… only the insecure ones desire the need for acknowledgement. a true man will do something b/c he thinks its right, not to impress. like me!
man’s man-
all i hear is blah, blah, blah……
j/k, but leave it to you to put in that last line
man’s man…
Let me start off by saying that I appreciate you reading my blog despite the fact it does not have any pics of Batman or Iron Man. lol
I also want to state that I cherish our friendship, and I am very thankful you are in my life. I have always wanted to have a big brother and I am lucky I found that in you. Now since that’s out of the way, I just want to say…….WHATEVER!!!!!!!!!
After reading your comment, I do have to agree with you somewhat. You do wear the pants in your relationship, your “Latin-fire” of a wife just tells you which ones to wear! I don’t agree in us being equal. Different duties?…..Excuse but aren’t your fingers callused from playing video games all weekend? (Ladies he does this while taking “care” of his baby girl) We of course would be doing laundry, cleaning, cooking, and so on! We will enjoy our debate as the years go by, but like I have asked you many times at work “When are you going to get tired of me always being right?” See you tomorrow.
First of all, the reason why Men have this power of strengh is because Women allow it to happen, as long as Women allow it we grant them a wish. For instance if u let laundry pile up, eventually they will do it, Dinner is the same, along with all the other chores there are to do in the house. Women are afraid of loosing there Man, cause chances are its not an easy task that Men will be so willing to accept. No one is worth a tear unless there is Trauma, over the simple things in life its not worth the ulcer.. It has been learned behaviour and a Circle for Many years. WOMEN STOP LETTING IT HAPPEN TO YOU. WOMEN also use sex as a weapon, By doing this you are falling right into the trap. If a Man does a good deed he thinks he deserves sex and what do women do Fall into the trap. Sex is used all for the wrong things, but hey keep doing it because by the time your 50 or more your body will have hade so much wear and tear, that u will hold it from him to the point where he will cheat. Unfortunately Men and Women are Different and thats the way it is. I shake my head when i hear my girlfriend say my husband isnt talking to me right now, he is mad at me because stupid things, I say when he is ready to talk, tell him your not ready and take as many days as you want befor having a Conversation with him, who gives him the power to say ok iam ready to talk now hmmmmm I think A Women did. If there is a Violent relationship or Marriage than hey what are you doing there. I guess what iam trying to say is you control your life its yours. There no men verses Women? After a long marriage that ended in divorce, its even worse, cause sex plays a Big part of it Women allow Men to think they are so good in bed and befor you no it you now have other issues, The man has ate the apple and then is Wondering where Wonder Women whent???? huh Yeap the Mans Brain. Its to Me the Circle that keep on going. I could right a book, and Mabey i will, Personaly if Women just thought about how to handle stress a little more we sure would give the Man a run for his Given ways…. One more thought befor i go, do you realize Women would rather stab you in the back befor sticking as one. Divorce is usally somone you no, neighbour, good friends ect What a Mess. I hope no one is offended by my speech, thats just how i see it.