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Lately I have been feeling like the world is caving in on me. I feel that the more I try to accomplish the less I do. Even though I am surrounded by friends and family that love me, I am in my own little world.
I have three little ones that are my inspiration and motivation, they are everything to me, they are my life!
Because of them, putting on a happy worry-free face is a daily task, one that I have come to master.
My boys go with their father every other weekend and they have a blast. They are now used to the fact that every time they go with him it is guaranteed fun.
Going to fun outings, buying toys and going out to eat, is routine when they are with their dad. It has not been a competition to see who gives them more with us because I wouldn’t stand a chance!
I let them have their fun with dad, with no disapproval on my part, they know that when they are with me, there are limitations.
I’m a good provider of my kids’ needs, while their dad is a great provider of their wants. My kids don’t know what is going on as far as my challenges of paying bills, mortgage and necessities, they know that with me they are not going to get a “yes”, and they are okay with that.
They do not know of course that the reason that their dad is the “yes” parent is because he doesn’t have a mortgage and bills that I have (he lives with his parents right now to save money) Even though he helps his parents out, it doesn’t compare with what I have to deal with.
Knowing all this, I do not hold a grudge. I am learning all I can about internet marketing, I have started selling cosmetics for some extra income, while working a full time job as a dental assistant. Don’t have a fancy car, it’s somewhat decent and it takes me from point A to point B. Might not be a “smooth ride” like my oldest will say, but it sure does have a great “custom faded paint job” (line I took from the movie “Transformers” What can I say I do have three boys!)
Knowing we have to live life and not settle for fear of the unknown, I try to make the best with what we have. Few know that sometimes I wish I was still married because of comfort and security. I have my ups and my downs, but we are not poor by any means, we are blessed in many ways.
My oldest son told me that he wished I was rich one night while driving home. I told him that his wish had come true for I am the richest person on earth. He looked at me bewildered and I said
“I am rich baby, I have you and your brothers in my life!”
For that I couldn’t be happier!
Blanca,
This is a great post. You have a balanced view of life, and even though you are going through trials and tribulations, your priorities are set straight. What you are giving your children will carry through for a lifetime. I hope they know how blessed they are to have a mother like you.
Blanca, your children are blessed to have you as their mother, just as you are blessed to have them as your sons. You also need to realize how much you affect those around you, both locally & around the world, as your expression of unconditional love defines the magic that this world needs in order to survive. We are so honored to be your friend!
Hay Blanca! That was a tear jerker! I know your boys love you VERY much! They wash their hands for goodness sake
I watched that movie “pursuit of happiness” last nite and that sure humbled me. We do not have a lot but we have the most important and that is our family! Love ya and hang in there.
“Lack” is merely a mindset and as you and I know there is great joy and abundance to be found in our children. They are blessings and a gift. You are indeed rich…beyond your wildest imagination. You are the steadfast rock in your boy’s lives that will lead them to be great adults. “Things” are fleeting moments…You provide the love, stability, honor and grace your boys need more than anything.
You want to be married?…for all the right reasons? It will come…once you are free, healed and ready to fully accept and experience abundance as you never have. Stay the course my dear friend.
OMG!!! That was the most heart felt reading I’ve seen in a long time. Your boys are truly blessed to have a mom like you… With that type of inspiration they are sure to grow up to be great men….
My first comment here and I’m going to keep it short & sweet as I have a lot more reading to do ! Thanks for the great blog, I know I appreciate the time and effort it takes to keep these sites current !
Hello my dear friend, What a beautiful piece. You are rich, yes. Your children are richer still for your love and example. I am proud to know you. Namaste’, Ken
Indeed you are rich and your boys are so fortunate to have such a loving mom. You have a very balanced look at life. I wish you success and most all happiness.
You are rich, and in control of you.
Blanca,
What a great post. Too many people these days fail to realize how rich they truly are. We just need to look around at the many blessings we have in our lives. You truly are rich and blessed.
Thank you for enriching our lives with your stories!
Have a great day and an even better tomorrow!
Bill
I happen upon your blog here by chance. I read a couple of your posts. I just want to say that you have a very nice writing style. Its well paced and clear. Don’t take that for granted. I can see that these blogs are an outlet and that is fantastic. But why not take it further? Express what you have been going through and what you are doing to get through this rough time and write a book about it. Not only could you possibly get something fruitful out of it, but it could also help others in a similar situation as well. Good luck to you and thank you for listening to me om blip.fm
Hey Blanca,
You are indeed rich and blessed with your children and your insight on life.
Just never give up.
Although things may seem tough now, it won’t always be this way as long as you persist and work towards your goals.
I know this is unsolicited advice, but I feel I would be doing you a disservice if I did not tell you…
I HIGHLY recommend you read and reread, then reread again these 2 books:
1. The Lazy Man’s Way To Riches - Joe Karbo
(Get The Revised Edition with Richard Gilly Nixon. Get the companion “Roadmap To Riches” workbook too, if you can find it.)
2. Think and Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill
They both changed my life and more than
doubled my income in a matter of months.
Now I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I can and will achieve anything (within reason) I decide I want to achieve.
The most important thing I learned from both is that you really need to become more aware of what you say when you talk to yourself and about yourself.
It will make or break you - LITERALLY.
What you say is what you get. Everything you say gets embedded in your subconscious mind and it plays out those instructions which becomes your life as it is right now.
Take this with a grain of salt, BUT what if I’m right?
All The Best,
Jason