Posted by Blanquis in Can’t remember the last time I had all this time to myself. Have been a wife and mom for so long that I don’t know what to do with myself! Questioning myself for every choice ever taken, blaming myself for not trying hard. Did I give up on my family?Loneliness, makes you go crazy, makes you play mind games with yourself
“I’m not confused. I’m just well mixed” - Robert Frost
Can’t help but go back and forward, weighing the pros and the cons. Missing your family does that I suppose. Feeling like a quitter, asking if my marriage was really that bad.
How crappy does your situation have to be, how much should you try before you call it quits? How much suffering should a person take, and how much sacrificing of one’s happiness for the sake of keeping a family intact?
Was married for thirteen years and not all of it was bad.
Miss the good times we had as a family, cherish the moments we had as a couple, but I so look forward to a brighter future.
My kids are my life, and they help me keep going. They deserve a happier mom, one who smiles in the morning and has a bounce in her step.
Miss them so much, can hardly wait to suffocate them with my hugs and kisses. You would think they had been away from me for such a very long time. It has been four days, but for a mom it feels like an eternity!
Have to find myself. Who was I before marriage and kids? Surely, I was not this BORING!
I got divorced too! It can be difficult, but in the long run I realized it really was for the best. I’m much happier, and it was better for my son in the long run. Don’t get discouraged. It can be hard, but if you’re doing it for the right reasons, then it’s the right thing to do.
You have to take the bad with the good at times,but you move on…whats happen you can’t compare apples to oranges, his culture is way diffrent than the women here in the US. When he moves on you bet cha that he go to a women that will put up with his b/s. You on the other hand have to let this go,Before anger sets in and you can’t see straight,but get even It’s not worth it and don’t show your weaknesses to him, be stronger than ever girl,at one point in time you was young didn’t know any better but now live life though your kids,you have to free your mind,body, & soul have no hold in speaking,thinking,& acting out with him. You will find deepen in your history w/h. but you have to understand,and develop new ideas and keep busy. You sound like your feeling sorry for yourself…DON’T because he’s not. This transformation your going though mental & emotional frame work is a part of life. You will have a new expressions of freedom to come and transform your life as you strengthen and deepen your awareness of the truth of your being,you did everything you could mama, accept the way we are in culture,there is one you will fall in love will soon,but first cleanse your mind and soul. Love Sandra
I can not claim to know how it feels when you get a divorce all I can say is I agree with you 100%, No regrets, look ahead and focus on the good things, move on be happy.
Take care
It’s been a month since my separation and I feel like I’m in the same place. Threads of memories are like cobwebs and I’m trapped by sadness. Your story made me feel less. Thanks for sharing.